ALONE IN THE AFTERMATH
For those whose relationships do NOT survive the impact of our partners’ sexual betrayal (including sex addiction, porn addiction, infidelity and/or other forms of problematic sexual behavior), certain recovery concepts—like grieving, healing, repairing and moving on—are VERY DIFFERENT than for those who remain together and heal within an evolving relationship.
In my work with clients across all different stages of relationship trauma and transition, I’ve often observed a significant (albeit unintentional) degree of situational disparity, an impending sense of marginalization experienced by partners who ultimately separate. Too often, the unique needs of this population have gone unnoticed, unacknowledged and unmet, simply due to lack of resources that highlight, honor and address these fundamental distinctions.
Confronted with this challenge, I knew I had two options: I could call game over, or I could call game on.
So I took a deep breath. I rolled up my sleeves.
And I vowed to become part of the solution.
The rest, as they say, is history.
Are YOU healing from separation or divorce in the aftermath of sexual betrayal?
Or, are you a helping professional seeking to support your clients, community or congregation? If so, I invite you to explore the resources I’ve created exclusively for this demographic. As a veteran divorce coach with 10+ years of dedicated professional training, research, interviews and advocacy—including firsthand work with more than 300 divorced, divorcing and separated survivors of sexual betrayal—I’m humbled to provide an expansive collection of awareness, experience and expertise on this field of specialization.
Bottom line, I know there’s nothing worse than feeling “alone in the aftermath.” Starting now, I hope you feel a bit less alone.
Check it out…
UPCOMING OPPORTUNITIES
Ongoing Support Group:
DreamGirls: Designing Our New Lives
Join Anytime via Zoom! Two 90-Minute Sessions Weekly: Tuesdays (1pm CT) and Thursdays (7pm CT)
Welcome to my most flexible, affordable and accessible group for survivors of betrayal-related divorce! DreamGirls provides an open-ended and open-topic forum, for clients who are independently exploring their “new normal,” alone in the aftermath of relationships mortally wounded by sexual betrayal. DreamGirls provides twice-weekly coaching sessions via Zoom, facilitated by veteran divorce coach Rae Gaelyn Emerson. DreamGirls seeks to help women move toward post-traumatic growth, resolving their trauma through active and progressive “reconnection,” inspiring them to rediscover, reclaim and reorient themselves—all within the context of other women who are doing it, too. Clients can join DreamGirls at any point, on a month-to-month basis (no long-term commitment required.) Best of all? For clients who cannot afford the full group fee, DreamGirls invites participants to join on a “pay what you can” basis.
For more information, click HERE.
For a free consultation, click HERE.
To register, click HERE.
Six-Week Support Group for Post-Divorce Dating!
BELLA: Brave Enough to Live and Love Again
Every Tuesday, March 10–April 14, 2026 @ 5pm CT
Let’s face it: it takes a special kind of courage to brave new love after sexual and relationship betrayal. BELLA is a weekly online coaching group, designed to support women in ALL stages of movement toward future romance. Together, we co-create a profoundly consent-based environment, one that’s (a) autonomous, (b) empowering and (c) tenderly growth oriented. Each participant sets her own goals related to sex, dating and new relationships, with affirmation and accountability for taking meaningful steps toward those goals.
Winter Schedule = March 10, 17, 24 and 31, plus April 7 and 14, 2026. Tuesdays, 5–7pm Central Time (or your local equivalent).
Cost = $600 for six 2-hour sessions. Pay in full by February 24, 2026 and save $100
Got questions?
For a detailed flyer, click HERE.
To register, click HERE.
For a free consultation, click HERE.
4-Month Topical Support Group for Betrayal-Related Divorce Support!
Avenue D: Road to Debridement
Wednesdays, March 11–June 25, 2026
AM Cohort: 1-3pm CT with Rae Emerson
PM Cohort 5-7pm CT with Lori Shelley
Avenue D is a 4-month, topic-based coaching support group, created to provide a safe and validating environment for female survivors of betrayal-related separation or divorce. Unlike other programs that concurrently support ALL women wounded by sexual betrayal, regardless of their relationship status, this group will focus EXCLUSIVELY on the needs of divorced, divorcing or permanently separated women—the unique challenges involved in the process of dissolving an intimate partnership, combined with new aspects of living independently beyond that relationship with a sexually deceptive loved one.
Cost = $1200 for twelve 2-hour sessions. Pay in full by February 24, 2026 and save $100
Got questions?
For a detailed flyer, click HERE.
To register, click HERE.
For a free consultation, click HERE.
Private Peer-Support via Facebook:
Not-So “Alone in the Aftermath”
AUDIO/VIDEO INTERVIEWS:
- Divorce after Betrayal | Interview with Kris Rocha and Jen Howie, Betrayal Recovery Transformation Podcast (2026). Listen here.
- Alone in the Aftermath: Healing from Betrayal when Your Relationship Doesn’t Survive | Video Interview with Tammy Gustafson, Betrayal Healing Conference (2025). Watch here.
- Bravely Dreaming Audaciously |. Audio Interview with Sarah Morales, Deconstructing Gaslighting Podcast, Season 2, Episode 24 (June 2024). Listen here.
- Healing from Abuse After Divorce | Interview with Amie Woolsey, The Empowered Divorce Podcast (2023). Listen here.
- Divorce with Dignity | Interview with Kristin Cary, Living Truth Podcast (2020).
Listen to Part One here.
Listen to Part Two here. - Creating a New Happily Ever After | Interview with Anna Osborn, Her Life Unscripted Podcast (2019). Listen here.
- How Women Can Heal from Relationship Abandonment | Interview with Geoff and Jody Steurer, From Crisis to Connection Podcast (2020). Listen here.
- Feeling and Healing from Sexual Rejection | Interview with Jordann Alyce, Triumph Over Trauma Summit (February 2020). Listen here.
PROFESSIONAL PRESENTATIONS:
- From Separation to Sexploration: Navigating the Liminal Landscape of Post-Divorce Sex | Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health
SASH Conference, October 2020. Click here to listen. - Alone in the Aftermath | Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health
SASH Conference, September 2016. Click here to listen.