ALONE IN THE AFTERMATH
For those whose relationships do NOT survive the impact of our partners’ sexual betrayal (including sex addiction, porn addiction, infidelity and/or other forms of problematic sexual behavior), certain recovery concepts—like grieving, healing, repairing and moving on—are VERY DIFFERENT than for those who remain together and heal within an evolving relationship.
In my work with clients across all different stages of relationship trauma and transition, I’ve often observed a significant (albeit unintentional) degree of situational disparity, an impending sense of marginalization experienced by partners who ultimately separate. Too often, the unique needs of this population have gone unnoticed, unacknowledged and unmet, simply due to lack of resources that highlight, honor and address these fundamental distinctions.
Confronted with this challenge, I knew I had two options: I could call game over, or I could call game on.
So I took a deep breath. I rolled up my sleeves.
And I vowed to become part of the solution.
The rest, as they say, is history.
Are YOU healing from separation or divorce in the aftermath of betrayal?
Or, are you a helping professional seeking to support your clients, community or congregation? If so, I invite you to explore the resources I’ve created exclusively for this demographic. As a veteran divorce coach with 10+ years of dedicated professional training, research, interviews and advocacy—including firsthand work with more than 300 divorced, divorcing and separated survivors of sexual betrayal—I’m humbled to provide an expansive collection of awareness, experience and expertise on this field of specialization.
Bottom line, I know there’s nothing worse than feeling “alone in the aftermath.” Starting now, I hope you feel a bit less alone.
ONGOING SUPPORT GROUP:
DreamGirls: Designing Our New Lives
Join Anytime! (Tuesdays and Thursdays @ 1pm–2:30pm ET)
Unlike Avenue D’s topic-oriented approach, DreamGirls provides a flexible, open-ended and open-topic forum, for clients who are actively and independently exploring their “new normal,” alone in the aftermath of relationships mortally wounded by sexual betrayal. DreamGirls provides twice-weekly online coaching sessions, facilitated by Gaelyn Rae Emerson. DreamGirls seeks to help women resolve their trauma through active and progressive “reconnection,” inspiring them to rediscover, reclaim and reorient themselves—all within the context of other women who are doing it, too. Clients can join DreamGirls at any point, on a month-to-month basis (no long-term commitment required.) Best of all? For clients who cannot afford the full group fee, DreamGirls invites participants to join on a “pay what you can” basis. Please note: DreamGirls session times and days occasionally change, based upon active group participants. Email me to confirm the current session schedule.
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MORE RESOURCES:
Alone in the Aftermath | Secret Facebook Group
Admission by invitation only. Click here to request membership.
Alone in the Aftermath | Recommended Reading List
Created for helping professionals. Click here to download.
AUDIO INTERVIEWS:
Divorce with Dignity | Podcast Interview with Kristin Cary
Living Truth Podcast from LivingTruth.org
Click here to listen—Part One.
Click here to listen—Part Two.
My “Big Sexy Comeback” Story | Podcast Interview with Jenni Rochelle
Beauty After Betrayal, August 2021. Click here to listen.
Creating a New Happily Ever After | Podcast Interview with Anna Osborn
Her Life Unscripted, August 2019. Click here to listen.
Feeling and Healing from Abandonment | Podcast Interview with Geoff Steurer
Illuminate Podcast, April 2020. Click here to listen.
Feeling and Healing from Sexual Rejection | Summit Interview with Jordann Alyce
Ready to Rise: Triumph Over Trauma, February 2020. Click here to listen.
What Happens If I Need to Leave? | Radio Interview with Carol Sheets
APSATS Betrayal Recovery Radio, February 2018. Click here to listen.
Divorce Support for Partners of Sex Addicts | Radio Interview with Carol Sheets
Sex Help with Carol the Coach, October 2016. Click here to listen.
PROFESSIONAL PRESENTATIONS:
Alone in the Aftermath | Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health
SASH Conference, September 2016. Click here to listen.
From Separation to Sexploration: Navigating the Liminal Landscape of Post-Divorce Sex | Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health
SASH Conference, October 2020. Click here to listen.
BLOG POSTS:
- The Fable of the Bridge
- From This Day Forward: Vows to Me, Myself and I
SURVEY:
Having sex (or not) after separation or divorce? Either way, I want to hear about it!