In the world of trauma and recovery coaching, Gaelyn stands out as a shining example of a coach with expert knowledge, lived experience, and sensitivity toward those healing from betrayal trauma. As a clinical therapist, I recommend her work without hesitation due to Gaelyn’s professional integrity, as well as her solid commitment in helping hurting people heal.
Mari A. Lee, LMFT, CSAT, Author of Facing Heartbreak: Steps to Recovery for Partners of Sex Addicts and Healing Betrayal (thecounselorscoach.com)
Gaelyn provides partners of sex addicts a rare blend of personal experience, professional wisdom and practical help. I have personally witnessed partners at various stages in the healing process richly benefit from her perspective. In the therapy group I facilitate, a partner who attended Gaelyn’s boundary presentation said, “I finally understand why boundaries are the heart and soul of partner recovery.” If you are a partner who is struggling to find solid ground in the wake of sexual betrayal, I highly recommend Gaelyn as an exceptionally competent coach and gifted presenter.
Jill Manning, PhD, LMFT, CCPS, DCC, Therapist, Researcher and Author (drjillmanning.com)
As my personal coach, professional mentor and practicing colleague, I have found Gaelyn to be excellent at everything she does. The care and attention she provides is truly exceptional, and it clearly reflects her dedication and passion for her work in this world. Gaelyn is uniquely diligent in providing high-quality support to people dealing with complex issues, and she demonstrates this by holding herself to the highest standards of professional training, development, supervision, consultation and collaboration; I wish others in this field would strive to similar degrees of personal integrity and professional accountability! Through her example, Gaelyn has challenged me to uphold that same level of commitment and determination.
On a more personal note, Gaelyn has walked with me through some of my highs and lows, navigating both with equal measures of empathy, vision and hope. She holds space for the possibility that things can be better, and she allows me to grow into that realisation in my own time and in my own way. If you’re thinking about working with Gaelyn in any capacity—do it! You won’t regret it.
Cat Etherington, CPLC, ICF-ACC, APSATS-CPC
Head of Recovery for Visible Ministries and Naked Truth Project (ntproject.co.uk)
I had caused a great deal of damage in my marriage as a result of my addiction, and I was feeling the impact of what it had done in my relationship with my wife. Though I had guys in my group with good hearts who were willing to share their thoughts on how to repair my marriage, I recognized I needed someone who understood my wife’s perspective to give me some clarity.
I will admit, I was nervous going into my meeting with Gaelyn, but from the first minute, I knew I was in good hands. She was able to reassure me and make me feel at ease. She surprised me by the way she spoke to me with empathy and understanding. At the same time, she was masterful in the way she gave me insights into my wife’s viewpoint about our situation, something I desperately needed.
At no point did I feel judgement or disapproval from Gaelyn. In fact, as our time went on, I got more and more excited as she was able to open my eyes to the ways that my wife was likely feeling as a result of my actions. Her use of metaphors and personal experience gave me insights and understanding that were invaluable. It helped me to develop my sense of empathy and grief over the pain that I had caused my wife, and from that came sincere compassion which was foundational to our healing. After our conversation together, I went back to my men’s group and told them, “Guys, you have GOT to talk to this woman!”
I could not recommend Gaelyn more highly. She was able to give me exactly what I needed at the time when I needed it; a pivotal moment that has helped my marriage improve dramatically since then. I think any man in my position would reap fantastic rewards from his work with Gaelyn. I know I did.
I can’t say enough about Coach Gaelyn. She came into my life after the heartbreaking, shattering pain and grief of betrayal, abandonment and sickness. I am moving forward, step by step and surviving the “hard things.” As I try to heal and accept the new normal that has been thrust upon me without my consent. I am blessed to have this angel by my side. She gets me. She’s my voice when the words won’t come. My light in the darkness. I trust her. I believe her. I can count on her to be my touchstone. An amazing teacher and source of support. I thank God for her presence in my life. I am grateful that she walks beside me through this horrible storm every day. Gaelyn is a gift and there aren’t enough words to convey all she has done and means to me. Thank you, Gaelyn!
Gaelyn started as my coach and we have grown to be more like family. As professional as she is, she still allows herself to share her experiences as needed, making me feel not alone. This makes her coaching unique, because it’s by far not “clinical-feeling” in nature. I feel Gaelyn is very educated in her field and has truly led me, without telling me what to do or how to do it, through the hardest growth in my life. Still on a messy path, I take Gaelyn’s lessons and words with me, to guide me through the next steps, whatever they are. I confide in her still, and she’s always there.
I was able to attend Gaelyn’s three-hour online workshop, “How Can I Protect and Heal My Children?” As a parent in an over sexualized world, I was discouraged and I felt like I was fighting a losing battle. This workshop gave me hope and encouragement; a true reminder that I was on the right track. I walked away from this workshop with a new set of tools and a long list of resources. If you are a mom, if you know a mom or if you work with kids in any way, this course is invaluable in the fight against porn.
Heidi Monuteaux, LMHC, CSAT
Betrayal Trauma Survivor (befreecounseling.com)
Days when we meet for group are always empowering for me. We’re all trying to find our way out of the darkness and for that hour and a half, I’m not alone, I’m supported, I’m learning and I’m safe! We all are! I feel so blessed to be a part of all the women there who so generously give of themselves, their spirits, their wisdom, their vulnerability, their love and their experiences.
Gaelyn creates a safe place to do all the hard things. A safe place to heal and learn. No one judges you. No one rushes you or tells you how to heal. No one minimizes what you’re feeling or why you feel it. We learn from each other with the guidance, protection and input from our amazing Coach Gaelyn. She is so authentic in her love and support for all of us, so amazing in the knowledge she possesses, and so gentle in the administration of those hard truths, when I find myself face-to-face with them. She allows me to take them in piece-by-piece, work through them step-by-step. And that means the world to me.
Fear of relapse is a reality every partner faces at some point in recovery. That’s why I chose to participate in Gaelyn’s workshop, “Just in Case: Relapse Preparedness for Partners of Sex Addicts.” This course was very helpful and informative. Not only did I learn a lot about relapse preparedness, I walked away with a tangible action plan for relapse. Gaelyn took a difficult subject and made it feel less overwhelming. I found the experience in group encouraging as I connected with and grew alongside other women who were facing similar situations. I would recommend this course to any partner who desires peace of mind around the possibility of relapse.
Heidi Monuteaux, LMHC, CSAT
Betrayal Trauma Survivor (befreecounseling.com)
They say all coaches are “lifelong learners,” but few match Gaelyn’s impressive investment of time, energy and money into her continuing education and professional skillset. Her passion for advocacy is at the heart of her work.With a collaborative soul, pioneering spirt, irreproachable ethics and high commitment to excellence, Gaelyn brings a fresh voice into the world of betrayal, addiction, trauma and sexual health. When Gaelyn speaks, people listen. Women love her. Men respect her. Couples trust her. Colleagues consult with her. From coaching sessions to conference presentations, Gaelyn Emerson raises the bar—and isn’t that exactly what our clients deserve from us?
Carol Juergenen Sheets, LCSW, CSAT, CCPS-S, PCC
Host of Sex Talk with Carol the Coach (carolthecoach.com)
I’ve had the privilege to work alongside of Gaelyn; the pleasure of gleaning from her fastidious work, knowledge, experience and insight; and the gift of having her as my own coach on my personal journey of healing. In all three realms, she has given me things that have changed my life. She has been a huge influence on me finding myself—professionally and personally.
Gaelyn has many, many wonderful qualities. I’ll name my top two: Gaelyn has an ability to mirror back what you share with her incredible use of words and imagery that generate profound moments of clarity and empowerment; Gaelyn has a very sincere compassion, empathy and grace that instantly makes you feel safe and seen. She’s an absolutely incredible coach and person.
Sarah Morales, CPC, CRC, APSATS-CPC
Austin, Texas (sarahmoralescoaching.com)
Gaelyn was my life coach during the most difficult time in my life, and I’ve found her guidance to be competent, realistic and compassionate. While preparing to separate from my pornography-addicted husband, I joined one of her phone coaching sessions for women in the same stage of life. Emotionally, I was all over the place. I was a very broken woman when Gaelyn found me. She had the experience and the genuine goodness within her to help women in my position—women who came to her feeling worthless and alone. I appreciate very much the help and guidance she has been able to offer me and would recommend her expertise to anyone else in the same position.