Healing Talks Back

I’m a writer at heart—period.

Writing is my happy place! My sweet spot! My comfort zone! I’ve come to call writing my “native language,” the means by which I embrace and express my most authentic, internal self.

My two favorite quotes about writing come from Ernest Hemmingway. The first quote is easy, eloquent and altogether true : “A writer must write what he has to say, not speak it.”  The second quote is harder, but equally honest: “There is nothing to writing. All you do is sit at a typewriter and bleed.”

Most of the time, I write for myself. But much of the time, I also write on behalf of those who HAVE deep things to say, but who don’t (for one reason or another) actually say them.

For all of those others—my fellow human beings, who experience life with the same surge of intensity and inspiration—this blog is dedicated to YOU.

Here’s another great Hemingway quote: “As a writer, you should not judge, you should understand.” As a writer, I write about things that are important to me, first and foremost. But as a blogger, I also want my writing to serve, support and inspire those who read it. So I’d love to know: What topics do YOU want to read about? What issues do you think are important-yet-overlooked, urgent-yet-unaddressed? Send me an email (crystalmor@mac.com) and let’s get a conversation started!


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