Independence Day: “Safe in Love” with Me, Myself and IBy Rae Gaelyn Emerson, CPLC, CCRC, CDRC, MCC, CMC, CPC-S Last week, I read a quote that stopped me in my tracks. It read: “Once you grow up, you realize you don’t want to be crazy in love… you want to be safe in love. Your […]
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Two Things My Divorce DIDN’T Mean By Rae Gaelyn Emerson, CPLC, CCRC, CDRC, MCC, CMC, CPC-S Once upon a time, I felt LOTS of relief and gratitude about the state of my recovering marriage. We’d survived a solid decade of therapy and recovery, and we were healing together from the relational impact of sex addiction
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A Letter to Bella: 22 Things I Want You to Know About Dating After BetrayalBy Rae Gaelyn Emerson, CPLC, CCRC, CDRC, MCC, CMC, CPC-S Dear Bella, First things first: congratulations for getting yourself to this exquisitely empowering moment! After everything you’ve been through, from discoveries to divorce, nobody would blame you for giving up on
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DECEMBER 30, 2025 Today’s New Narrative Day celebrates a story that began quietly on this date eleven years ago. And while today’s moment is inherently and independently meaningful, the history that precedes it is equally special to me—especially because eleven is my favorite number. It first materialized during the wee morning hours of December
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Dearly Beloved, Once upon a time, I named my business Women Ever After. At that point in my life, I celebrated womanhood as my nearest and dearest happy place. I focused on women’s issues. I fought for women’s rights. I honored my identity as an advocate for women, unapologetic about my choice to coach primarily
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March 16, 2022 Five years. It strikes me as a seemingly odd measure of time. Five trips around the sun. Twenty transitions between calendar seasons. Sixty cycles of the moon, spanning each of her glorious phases and back again. Two hundred and sixty (give or take) mid-week Wednesdays, most of them remarkably unremarkable. Five years
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For the last three years, I’ve celebrated December 30 (my former wedding anniversary) as the date upon which I bring new expressions of self-love into my life. For this year’s commemoration, I’m writing a set of honorary and promissory vows to myself. It’s an exercise I assign to nearly all of my clients at one
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On this date last year, life completely SHATTERED for one of my youngest coaching clients. (In the betrayal trauma world, we often call this anniversary “D Day,” referencing the date someone discovers her partner’s infidelity, online secrets and/or sex addiction.) In the past 9 years, I’ve supported many women through their “D Day” anniversaries. And
Be still and know? Seriously God? Do you know what you’re asking? DON’T YOU SENSE THIS, GOD? That right now, I’m crawling out of my skin? This skin, by the way, that YOU put me in? This skin that looks freakishly “fine” on the outside, trapping me inside an unfathomable reality? This skin that’s supposed to
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